Idealisation

Be wary of courting idealisation.

It will scramble your ability to accurately perceive reality, then poison you with bitterness from the subsequent demonisation.

If you find yourself courting idealisation, stop and change path.

Recognise, with love, that you have chosen the easy option, then begin the hard yet priceless work of self discovery.

Gradually you’ll see how silly it was to aim for something so noxious.

If, by the way, you find yourself idealised by someone you don’t know, without having invited it, then it’s okay to let that be (as long as your wellbeing is not at risk).

The other person is in their own process and it is up to them to discover a healthy way to deidealise you when the time is right for them.

If the other person is someone you know, you might choose to work on this together. Just be mindful to receive adequate support along the way.